So I was surfing for something or another and came across this radio show clip about whether an alpha female can ever submit to an alpha male. The caller was complaining that even though both her and her man were highly educated and both were making good money, when it came to making financial decisions the man never includes her.
There were two hosts one male, one female, and the male host tried to explain to the caller that being an “alpha female” only existed in a scenario where there are other women but when it comes to her interaction with her man there is so no such thing as an alpha female. For some reason the caller couldn’t grasp the concept. So I googled it and sure enough I see why the caller was having a hard time. I have heard the term before but never really researched it to have an opinion about it. Maybe it was because I was never pressed to be the alpha male or maybe it was because I possess enough of the so called alpha male characteristics to be considered one I didn’t see the need to compete.
Anyhoo as I read a few things about alpha females I see where a major problem lies. Alpha females either don’t know how or don’t know when to turn off their alpha ness. This is what the caller had such a problem with. If you believe in this concept then understand, I am not saying their is anything wrong with considering yourself an alpha female but once you are in a relationship if you are become guilty of out alphaing the one he is supposed to be the alpha then “Houston we have a problem.”
So here is a post from a website talking about what it takes to love an alpha female.
- She will challenge you.
Not only will she challenge you, but she probably won’t forfeit too easily; she will be persistent and insistent. She will debate with you over anything from de Blasio’s new policy, to the actual color of a tennis ball (green? or yellow?), and she expects to win. Some advice: challenge her back.
- She don’t need a man to make it happen.
If you’re the kind of guy who loves to feel needed all the time, this gal just isn’t for you. She is fiercely independent and prides herself on being self-reliant and self-sufficient: Miss Outta My Way. The great thing about being with an Alpha is that you won’t feel tied down because she doesn’t need you, she wants you.
- She will be straight-up with you.
If your Alpha has a problem, you will most likely know about it. You can’t expect her to be too gentle with her words, so hopefully you’ll understand that she isn’t trying to be mean – this is just the way she is. But, hey, you won’t need to deal with the typical passive-aggressive stuff that most girls pull!
- She’s a do-er, not a talk-er.
Alpha’s take action, so if she says she’s gonna do something – you bet your bottom dollar, she’s gonna do it. She probably expects the same in return: if you say you’re gonna do something, you sure better follow through. And if ya don’t, she will…so don’t miss the boat, Mister. Hop on!
- She doesn’t wear her Alpha on her sleeve.
Chocolates? Flowers? One of those Hallmark cards that have a cute pun about how much you love her? Yeah, these things will probably make her vom a little in her mouth before it makes her heart melt. Not that she’s a total cynic, but she’s used to the doting – the lovey dovey stuff that every girl wants – and in order to get her attention, you’ll need to come up with something a little more original.
- She’s not easy.
If you think loving an Alpha Female is easy, you’re wrong. She’s difficult, competitive, and probably complicated. She gets off from being free, being in power, and will step on any man who gets in her way. She is, in fact, ab. So. Lute. Ly. Impossible.
- But she’s definitely worth it.
Her my-way-or-the-highway attitude and complete self-competence will, at times, make you feel small. Instead, let it empower you. Let it strengthen your weaknesses, and let it feed your drive to success. She will help you learn about yourself; she will push you; she will change you; she will impact you. Overall, she will make you a better man.
Here’s a hint ladies…